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If this is truly an online vent session, and it's for my benefit more than ya'lls, I need to lay something out.

My dad is a f*@% ing creep. My sister put it quite succinctly when she stated "I'm not even hurt anymore, just mad. Not mad about his absence, but mad about not having the fringe benefits of a functional father." You know, like an available mechanic, hiking and hunting buddy, someone to go to oldies concerts with.

Of course, we both feel the loss deeper than that, but the frustration and bewilderment surfaces in strange ways. I hit a Big Head Todd and the Monsters concert last week... lots of old timers around with their 'old ladies', digging the music. One of those situations in which a real father would love to accompany his mid-twenties son. My dad was likely capping off day seven of a thirteen-day bender, and you bet your ass that was on my mind while sipping my concert beer from the plastic cup.

Finally got the key to my moto-scoot. Honda 360T, look out world! Needs some work, though... Again, no father. After the initial shock of his son riding, as he would refer to it, a piece of "Jap Crap" (white-trash fathers, breed racism, yes, yes!) he might actually help tweak the engine with me a bit... I'd enjoy seeing his reaction to me scurtting by on it, whining in that higher-pitched (yet verifiably more efficient) engine frequency. Sheesh.

So here I am, eleven thirty four on the digital clock, numbers blinking and marching onward without mercy while I wait for the Sandman to knock me upside the head. Too much salad too late at night means an overloaded Buddha belly and delayed onset of sleep. This ensalada mezcla breath is too much, even for me; damn those Vascos for instilling such garlic-scarfing habits in me. Overall things are going pretty well, though the inkspot in my life (labeled James D. Allan) seems so dark when the rest of life shines so brightly. I'm off to bed. Big middle finger to JDA, wherever he's squatting tonight. Ouch.

Lightning

Coming home from coffee last night, sitting comfortably in a Jetta bucketseat and staring at a wicked impending storm front, I got goose bumps. One of those moments when the stark blackness contrasts against the fire-violet sunset sky and reminds you of the intangible power around us. The sight stopped me mid sentence and wiped my mind clean of its trivial thoughts.

Then I remembered sitting at Jason's house, chatting and waiting for Lauren to arrive after a long day of substituting. The sun had set on a clear afternoon, but the wind-induced creaks and strong scent of moisture indicated something substantial had invaded the empty skies. Lauren came in and we scurried out the back screen door to admire Mother Nature's ire. It took some coaxing, but we persuaded Jason to join us.

The three of us sat down, back to back to back, on the moist and overgrown grass in the yard; stared upward at the technics display of lights, shadows, crashes. From above I'm sure we looked like some strange paisley design: one bald head, one beanie-clad head, and one ball of curls, lots of white teeth and mouths agape in awe-struck silence. The moment erased time, or better yet reversed it, and we all felt like five-year-old children experiencing thunder and lightning for the first time ever.

Jason, especially, emanated the vibe of a young child. Well into his chemotherapy treatments, and far from finished, he clutched his lanky legs to his chest with frail arms and bony fingers, chuckling, laughing, then quiet. He began shivering even before Lauren did, and I was soon half-naked having passed my coat onto Jason and my sweatshirt to Lauren. I went inside to grab more cloth and they remained spine-to-spine, losing themselves in the wonder and humility only such occurrences can instill.

We all finally came in, by then well-beyond damp and ready for hot beverages and dry duds. A phone call, some TV, a meal later, we had all aged twenty-years again. Old and calloused and mature just like before the storm.

we'll see...

That is, we will see how long this lasts. I've finally scrambled down to a coffee shop to procure a wi-fi connection, since the existing connection in the house I'm sitting is being quirky and balking at my every attempt to access the world wide waste of time.

We'll see how long this lasts, since one eye is on this screen and one eye is blinking nevervously at my unchained road bike outside. Lots of googlies on Idaho Street, passing by and snapping lusty teeth at my shiny ride. Yet another eye on my battery (blink, blink, you have no power cord, blink, sucker, blink), and another on my watch. Yes, I am blessed with at least four eyes (eight since I wear contacts) and they are all busy.

I am housesitting this week, have been since Saturday night, and absolutely dig it. Spring break, you see, has presented me the opportunity to relax with school and amplify the cycling training... the weather is not cooperating, not adhering the the prearranged contract I've been scheming since January. Vicious undulations in temperature and precipitation create blue skies one minute and black slush-vommitting clouds the next. The plan was to slap down at least thirty hours this week of ride time, much of which with specific interval and strength-training efforts, and although I've not yet strayed from the schedule I am not going to log the next four days on an indoor trainer.

Times like these... thank God I have a coach. You see, knowing me (I started this tweaked-out behaviour in high school) I would pedal like mad inside, I would log the full thirty hours indoors. John is there to keep my head on straight and my ass from going numb on an indoor trainer, there to reveal the truth that mental freshness is directly correlated to physical prowess. Could I ride inside that much? Sure. Would I hate my bike next week, and the week after, and the week after... perhaps. Trying to avoid that means revamping this week's schedule, trading quantity for quality, and being confident in the decision.

So just me and Sierra in my rained-in training camp cottage; just up the hill from the North End of Boise in a late-eighties style box-trend casa, complete with stucco walls and huge sunrise-catching windows facing the sun's origin. Sierra is a yellow lab, probably twelve years old, likely oblivious to the fact that her owners are gone since (as we all know) labs operate solely by the whim of their bellies, and she has not missed a meal since her owners left Saturday morning. If anything she may be slightly confused that she's no longer having to guard her dog-bowl against the one and three year-old children usually running around. I myself do not prefer dog food, so Sierra is eating well and seems content.

I do feel, however, almost too out of touch with the normal Boise world. I haven't seen Greg in a few days, which sucks, and the crap-rain continues to fall and often traps me indoors. Lauren and I have done a good job of keeping in touch. She lives about three minutes from the house and drove up last night to make me Spaghetti...

I can not wait for Scott to get back. Not that I am tired of house-sitting, but since I'm watching over his dog and possessions I've discovered that we share a whole lot of common interests. He and Mallory (and perhaps the little bumpkins, too) apparently enjoy indy music as much as I do. Plus, considering that Scott is in his mid-thirties (I think?) he has an amazing collection of albums that he actually listened to before they were cool. I am a wannabe, just jumping on the indy music bandwagon, and Scott's collection is overwhelming and exciting to have access to.

Plus, his bookshelf contains all the books I've read and am anxious to read: from Thomas Pynchon to Cormac McCarthy. I had no idea that his interests lied in such areas. Can't wait to chat with him more whence he returns. In reality I'm flattered that he and Mallory trusted me with their house and pooch, I do not know either of them that well but must've come across as reasonably competent and responsible.

Turf, little girl just sampled some carpet next to me whilst running to the bathrroom. Damn loose shoe laces, every time. Remind me sometime to tell you about my sister's mishap with the laces of her high-top sneaks. I had no more than five years at the time, but I remember the incident like it was yesterday.

I'm out. Extemporaneous wanderings, ramblings and ideas from a bald cyclist on his spring break from master's engineering college. Thanks.

Blink, four weeks.

Perched on the edge of a poorly-constructed 'oak' chair, sipping mud (as usual) and supporting a large coffee shop that does not need supporting, it is time to write again.

I often hear people say that they are too busy to think about things. I have seen relationships failing in which the issues get 'slid to the back burner' for months or even years due to the tedium and relentless procession of life. I used to think it was bullshit, a scapegoat for the refusal to internally cope with challenges. I am now eating my words; there is some validity to it. Life can actually crank up the intensity enough to drown out your internal thoughts and perspective. Labeled: drone.

I am busy. I am busy, like sun-up to well beyond sun-down busy, and although I am handling things fine I recognize that I am nearing the apex of my abilities... the utmost pitch of a roof that slopes drastically on the other side. I do not search for this; I do not spot a spare 20-minutes in my day and procure additional projects to keep me busy. These things happen, especially to over-achievers like myself, and the challenge lies in prioritizing and setting some personal parameters.

But I digress, I have a point that I want to make today, right now. I have not fully digested Jason's death and its significance... How? What is my excuse? See paragraph one: full-throttle schedule equals a mindless drone that does not progress emotionally. I look back at the three weeks since Jason's death in awe and horror, amazed and terrified that I so easily bury myself in my own world. My own world: much of which is irrelevant and skewed in regards to what Jason's death showed us all.

I am still sad and feel much guilt about Jason's death. I am feeling the typical post-mortem regrets of wishing I had spent more time with him, more rides together, more deep conversations, more appreciation of his character. But I am also facing a lot of grief over the present tense. Speaking to my counselor, she pointed out the shame we often feel for appreciating the good things in life and relishing in one's accomplishments... when deep down we feel obligated to grieve and dwell on the void created by a friend's death. That evokes a slew of unanswerable questions related to magnitude and duration of sadness. How much should it affect me, and for how long? Must I feel terrible that things are going well for me? Should I bow my head in a moment of reflective sadness each time I am rewarded a personal achievement?

It is easy to say "No, embrace it, Jason would have wanted it that way." Easy to say but not to believe. It is a hard balance to find: focusing on ourselves and our goals to continue progressing, but maintaining the lucid and radiant memory of a lost friend and the impact made in your life. Too much egocentrism and the memory fades, too little and you stall, which your departed companion surely would not want. If anything I am feeling too egocentric. In the past three weeks I have done little to honor his memory... even if that itself is vague and nearly indefinable.
There you have it, I am mired internally between moving forward and respecting the past. Are things going well? Hell yes. Do I miss Jason? Well yeah. What is the proper way to progress, what is the typical time frame? Questions, unanswerable.